My first Whole30 experience in 2015 led to profound changes in my health & a whole new lifestyle. I was living the healthier life I created. I thought my remarkable Whole30 story ended there with . . . she changed her relationship with food & lived happily ever after.
I was so naïve & so wrong.
I began to plan my second round of Whole30 for January, 2016. I was pumped. I had learned so much since my first round & it felt great going into another round with knowledge and experience. It felt so very different than my first round!
On a whim, I decided to share about it on my Facebook page. Maaaaybe I could get one or two people to do a round with me & support them along the way. I doubted it. I mean, really, how likely is it that a Facebook post could convince a random friend to give up ‘all the things’ for a month? Not very. Still, I put it out there.
Much to my surprise, several friends were instantly interested. So I started a Facebook group, & over 30 people joined. A variety of family & friends were in. And so began my chance to share Whole30. Just like that.
Then my family committed to do it, too! My husband, my twenty-year-old son & my three-year-old, by default. I was overjoyed to share this experience with them & support them, feed them & witness their results.
The experience was incredible all around. For me as an individual, for each of us, for us as a couple, for us as a family, for us as a group. We bonded & achieved all kinds of amazing non-scale victories.
My husband glowed. He never felt better. He started to sound like me, singing the praises of Whole30 to everyone he encountered. He encouraged them to call me to talk about the program.
This time was filled with such uplifting energy & excitement. It reached all aspects of our lives. We enjoyed our time together with more presence and awareness. We decided to become more active at church. We worked on our new business idea. I did more yoga. I researched habits. We prioritized meals together & had a blast cooking in the kitchen. It felt like a beautiful new beginning.
My husband died in an accident three weeks later.
Since I had decided to extend my January round to 60 days, I was still doing my Whole30. The group I had just coached, my family & friends all showed up for us. They started a meal calendar & dropped off compliant meals at our house. Their love & support kept my Whole30 going. I kept eating. It kept me from drinking alcohol to numb out. I’m positive this saved me.
I had learned how food affected me during the previous year, and I knew continuing to eat well was now more crucial than ever. Day by day, I kept going. My days were still dark & overwhelming & horrific & brutal, but my new lifestyle made an incredible difference in my grieving process. Food was something I could control in a life I no longer recognized or wanted. It was a choice I still had. I could eat to feel better or make things worse. It was a way for me to show myself love & compassion.
It has been three years since Kenny’s sudden death & I have completed a total of nine Whole30s. I continue to do rounds for many reasons, most of them are emotional. When another difficult date looms, like the date of my husband’s death, I know a Whole30 will help me face the day. My head is clearer and my emotions are easier to face when I am on a round. I have more energy & focus. I sleep a little better. I remember to eat breakfast. I move more.
I thought my initial Whole30 was remarkable, & it definitely was. But I never imagined the countless ways Whole30 would help me in the years to come as I suffered with trauma & grief.
This is why I became a Certified Whole30 Coach. If I can support you, I hope you’ll reach out.