Have you ever wondered why some people seem to easily follow through on their resolutions or goals & it feels like more of a struggle for you? It may be that you haven’t yet set yourself up for success in the ways that work best for you.
Enter Gretchen Rubin’s The Four Tendencies. Her research on happiness led her to discover the four different tendencies people have in regards to inner and outer expectations. This knowledge is incredibly beneficial when embarking on habit change.
For me, realizing that I am a “Questioner” improved my self-understanding & empowered me to work with my tendency, instead of unintentionally against it, to create long lasting change.
As a “Questioner,” I resist outer expectations and meet inner expectations. So for me, I won’t do something just because someone expects me to do it. I don’t do arbitrary rules. I just don’t work like that, and trying to fight this fact about myself is frustrating and futile. I need something to make sense, I need to do the research to fully understand the theory behind it, before I will commit to it. This is one of the reasons I love to read, while others may not. If I am interested in a subject, I want to take the time to read about it so I can decide whether I am all in or not. Once I am sure, I will follow through on an expectation that I set for myself.
When I first learned about Whole30, the reason I was able to commit and complete my first round was because I read It Starts With Food and the theory behind their program made sense to me. If someone would have just told me to do it because it would work, I would have been less motivated and less likely to stay committed to it.
The awesome thing is that there aren’t “good” and “bad” tendencies. Instead, learning about the tendencies help you to understand and accept your tendency and use your strengths to set up systems to support your goals. It helps you learn to not beat yourself up because you aren’t doing it in the same way as somebody else, and instead to focus on the ways that work best for you.
This is one the “beyonds” I will cover in my #JanuaryWhole group. I begin my Whole30 coaching program with the Four Tendencies quiz to empower my clients to use this valuable information to personalize their program from day 1 and rock their Whole30!