Know Thyself Part 3

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is yet another helpful personality framework. 

Your type is determined through an assessment based on four questions. Each of the four questions have two possible determinations, and therefore add up to 16 personality different types:

Are you outwardly or inwardly focused? Extroversion or Introversion (E or I)

How do you prefer to take in information? Sensing or iNtuition (S or N)

How do you prefer to make decisions? Thinking or Feeling (T or F)

How do you prefer to live your outer life? Judging or Perceiving (J or P)

I am considered an INFP known as the Mediator. (Well . . . no surprise there, right?!) 

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My results state that my role is diplomat and my strategy is constant improvement. (Yes and also yes).

INFPs are capable of great empathy and enjoy communicating emotions, stories and dreams. We are imaginative and crave creative self-expression. 

This knowledge helped me to understand why I totally dread small talk and get all lit up during deep conversations. Instead of seeing this as a flaw, I can appreciate where I struggle and where I shine. I can use my strengths AND step out of my comfort zone. 

We do best when we focus on one cause at a time because we can easily get overwhelmed by all the issues in the world. Without this focus, we can easily give up on everything.

I absolutely have this tendency, and understand that paralyzed feeling when all I want to do is curl up in bed. I will retreat if I need to (ain’t no shame in a nap!) but it has been quite awhile since I have shut down in that way. Now when I start to feel overwhelmed, I know to take a deep breath and focus on one thing at a time.

I use personality frameworks to better understand and support myself, my loved ones and clients. My research has allowed me to realize that everyone thinks, perceives and shows up differently in the world. There isn’t one correct way. This knowledge also helps me to take things less personally, and creates space to show more patience and kindness to others. It helps me to understand what works for me may not work for others and vice versa. It has opened up my eyes to appreciate all the various ways we experience the world. It encourages me to be curious instead of rigid and stubborn. I mean . . . I’m working on it, but I certainly haven’t perfected any of this!

Do you know your type? If not and you’re interested, there is a free test you can take through 16 personalities or a paid assessment through Myers-Briggs. You will answer several questions that will lead to the determination of your type.

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments!

2 thoughts on “Know Thyself Part 3”

  1. I hate small talk too! Now I understand it is built in me, but not in everyone around me. There is a place for small talk but then I want to know: how ARE you?, what’s going on in your life? What’s happening with your kids, family or other loved ones?, Especially when I haven’t seen a friend for a while and we are sitting in a group @enjoying” with small talk I walk to scream! “ Stop! Let’s talk about what’s important!”


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